Homeschool Fears

When Worry Overwhelms

Homeschool Fears, When worry overwhelms, learning to let go of being defensive. |

As a homeschool mom, I’m entering my sixth year of teaching. As time goes on I’ve noticed that some things change with my mindset and others remain static.

I used to worry about what other people would think. I worried that people would not approve or that they would think less of me or my family because of the educational choice we were making. In fact I often felt that I needed to prove to others what my child was learning or able to do.

I found myself on the defense, a lot. I heard myself explaining to the check out girl at the grocery that homeschool students were out performing public school students. I listened to myself as I explained socialization to members of our congregation. I listed all the accomplishments he reached like a badge of honor to be worn on our homeschooling  jersey to the waiter at a restaurant.

That worry, the constant need to be defensive, wore old. Fast! Somewhere along the way, I let go of that fear.

That does not mean that I don’t occasionally wax poetic with a stranger about the benefits of homeschool. It does mean that I don’t go around flouting and defending every chance that I get.

I made the decision that the school choice for my child belongs solely to my husband and I. IF others seek me for information I will gladly share and encourage them in their endeavors. But, no longer do I feel the need to defend.

Some things remain the same, however. That is the general fear that some how I will ruin him. I worry that I will leave out an important educational element in his formative years. I worry that I, as his mom and teacher, will royally mess him up. There are times when that worry becomes overwhelming.

I also know that I can’t give in to those fears. I have to remind myself of the reasons we chose home-education. It is in those overwhelming times that I try to remember to hit my knees in prayer, casting my fears upon my Lord and remain standing firm in the knowledge that He will meet our every need.

How about you? What are your homeschool fears?


Renée (26 Posts)

Renée Brown is author at her personal blog, Great Peace Academy. She is a homeschooling mom to her one amazing son, Jonathan and has been the wife of her Beloved Michael for 21 years. On her blog you will find discussions about her work as a homeschooling mom, her family and her faith.

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  1. says

    Well said, Renee! Thank you for sharing! It’s so important to dialogue abt our fears, concerns, defenses….we are beginning our 9th year of HSing; before that, I taught for 13 years. And still, ppl put me on the defensive. friends, family, neighbors. Now that they see my kids are skilled, ( relatively) mature, polite ( believe me, they’re not geniuses, but their vocab and general outlook are “different” than non HSed kids, as are all of our HSed kids) they have gradually backed off.
    The atmosphere around the Thxgiv table used to be quite tense, where now, my kids engage in political discussions, talk around a play they are in, or a discussion of our recent fam trip…it’s obvious to fam, neighbors that Hsing “works.” So they’ve retreated. But I DEFINITELY hear what you are saying!!
    When we first started out HSing, our CYO and our local boy scouts needed volunteers/leaders desperately. We stepped up and then we worried that ppl would think that we felt no one else was “good” enough to be with our kids…we were teaching them, we were their den leaders, their coaches, etc…I’ve since gotten more comfortable and adopted a cavalier attitude
    Thanks for the great insight!

    Be well and God bless!

    • Renée says

      Thank you Chris. I have often wondered if I will ever let go of every fear. I too struggle with letting others teach my son in outside settings, but I’ve definitely gotten better at it, so I understand. We do need to encourage one another and dialogue about how we feel about our fears, otherwise we feel so alone.

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