10 Things to NOT Ask the Homeschool Mom

Some lighthearted humor to start the day.

1. What happened to the house today? Even if there are scraps of craft paper on the floor and stuck to the table and there’s toast from breakfast still sitting in the toaster and a huge pile of legos sitting there right in the middle of the living room, just let it go. Find something creative to say about the clutter. Like this —  it looks like you guys exercised your creativity today!

2. Seriously? Macaroni and cheese for dinner again? Some days, macaroni and cheese is an excellent and needed option for dinner. And just so you know, they have gluten free mac and cheese options as well. Sometimes mac and cheese is the save the sanity go-to dinner option.

3. What did you get done today?  Even if there is a stack of papers on the table, a mess everywhere, and only 14 math problems got completed – they still worked. So best to tuck the what did you get done away and simply ask how the day went and listen to all the amazing things that were accomplished.

4. Do I have clean underwear anywhere?  Don’t even touch the laundry subject. Simply step away, walk down to the dryer or the 5 full clothes baskets, and begin digging.

5. Could so and so drop by in 10 minutes?  Always, and I repeat, always, give warning. I prefer to have a good six hour warning before someone comes over. Then, at our home, we commence operation clean up.

6. Did you wear that shirt yesterday? Shirts can be worn more than once. That’s okay. In fact, simply grab a cardigan, throw it over and call it a day. Add a side pony tail and spice up the look.

7. You owe the library what??  Library fines are simply par for the course. Honestly, just begin to budget in library fines and call it all in the honor of learning. I figure we’ve already purchased the “L” and “I” in the library sign outside of our library.

8. In all your spare time could you organize this large event?  Ha. Spare time. Never, ever, and I repeat ever, tell a homeschool mom {or any mom in that instance} that she has a bunch of spare time.

9. Oh, you let the kids watch television?  Seriously, moms, some media is okay. There are moments in our lives where it is simply okay to turn on Kipper the Dog so that we can make something besides the above mentioned macaroni and cheese for dinner. Let it go. Some media is okay. Media all day? Even though you could slap the educational tag on it? That’s not okay.

10. How do you do it?  I know this is meant kindly and out of curiosity, but often this gets me {and the other homeschool mom} wondering how in the world they actually made it through the day. Instead, a simpler and sweeter way might be this: you amaze me, you homeschool mom who gets up at the crack of dawn and survives on coffee and who still smiles at the end of the day and can sing the grammar song with the best of them and who goes to bed content. Try those sweet words instead.

In the spirit of fun, what are some things that you can think of to not tell to a homeschool mom? And, grin, homeschool moms, I think you’re pretty amazing.


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  1. says

    Number 5 really gets my me! I live in a new house so some people assume that means it’s a show home. I’ve been humiliated several times when non-homeschooling friends “pop” in for a tour. Ahhh! I shall learn to say, “No…you cannot see the rest of the house.” lol
    Funny article…thanks! 😉

    • says

      Thanks, Candace.
      My hubby knows that I need warning — or else, I just excuse the science project on the counter and the pile of legos in the living room — and then I just smile. :)

    • susan dill says

      We have learned to tell people… “if you want to see US, come anytime… oh, you wanted to see the HOUSE? Give us 3 days notice.”

  2. says

    Mine? Don’t ever say to me “I couldn’t stand to be around my kids all day like that.” I hate that. I know you mean you don’t like your own kids very much, but my brain hears it as “I couldn’t stand to be around your passel of brats all day.” I find it insulting. I like my brats. Just tell me how neat an idea homeschooling is and move on.

      • says

        Oh Cindy!!!! That one drives me crazy as well! I have seen so many moms post at how excited they are that summer is over and their kids are back to school. I enjoy spending all the time I can with my kids. Before we know it they will be grown and gone. And most people that I talk to that have older children say, ” I wish I would have homschooled, I wish I would have spent more time with my kids.”

      • Ann says

        I have been known to say to strangers “Oh, it’s okay. I love my children.” Or, “Oh, it’s fine for me. I’ve taught them to mind me and not be obnoxious any more of the time than most adults are.

    • Dianne says

      Ooh yes this one is frustrating. Why must it be an all or nothing deal? Black, white, hate, love – fact is, sometimes I DON’T like being with my kids all day. Sometimes I don’t think they like being with me either. But maybe this is worse, pretend it’s “nirvana” all day long. Frankly, it isn’t. One or more of us is messing up on a pretty regular basis, and I know we could do better, be better, love better, pray better, but PRAISE God he is glorified in my/our weakness! It is a difficult, thankless, sometimes humiliating, often exhausting life and when the chips are down, I STILL wouldn’t have it any other way.

      • Kate says

        YES YES YES!!!

        I hear lots about how hard it must be to spend my whole day with my kids…I like to answer with a lesson in economics of scale.

        When my kids were in school, I got them first thing in the morning when I had to drag them out of bed and get them ready and out the door, and the last few hours before bed, which were jam-packed with violin/dance lessons and practice, homework, dinner, baths, chores, and siblings bickering at each other. Now they still bicker, we still have to practice our violin and dancing, we still do schoolwork (on a schedule/timeline determined by ME) but we *have all day to do it.* And, as an added bonus, my daughters don’t fight any more than they used to, in terms of sheer elapsed time, but in terms of percentage of their time together, it’s much more bearable.

      • Regina says

        You are so right to praise God. I’s been 2 years since my youngest graduated from homeschool but I know I could NEVER have managed it without God.Not only did we get the questions from strangers at the grocery store, mailmen, and even sometimes friends from church, but we had no support from any of our family except my mother-in law who dies when my children were 8 & 5.When comments like this get you down,give thanks that you have God’s strength to lean on and ask His blessing on those who made the comment. Homeschooling is not for the faint of heart, it is a long, hard process to train up a child in the way he should go. Not everyone is called to it. Regina

    • Kimberly says

      Oh, that one always gets me too! More than once I’ve been tempted to reply with “I wouldn’t want to be around your kids all day either!”

    • Elaine Brock says

      That’s the one thing that I get really upset about.They don’t want to be around their own kids so there must be something wrong with me because I do.

      • Anon says

        I don’t homeschool, but know lots of people who do, and I really enjoyed the post and comments. For those who feel judged by non-homeschoolers, it might be easier for folks to keep in mind that many of us who send our kids to public school feel like those who homeschool are making a judgment on us. Since you decided that public school wasn’t good enough for your kids, you must think that I am not putting my kids first or doing something wrong by sending my kids to public school. I think that’s why we sometimes have trouble knowing how to react when people say they home school. Just saying that you homeschool can feel to some like a judgment. I’ve had lots of conversations with my homeschooling friends and family about this and know that this is usually not the case (and have the utmost respect for homeschoolers), but just thought I would throw this out there as food for thought next time someone asks you a ridiculous question or makes a crazy statement!

  3. Elizabeth Vale says

    This article made me laugh and made me feel so normal at the same time! Thanks for the great post – I always love what you write!

  4. says

    Numbers four and seven had me laughing out loud! Sadly, those are both painfully true. 😉

    After having paid $40 in library fines this past week, I think we are well on our way to purchasing the “L” at our library!!!

    Still chuckling…

    • says

      Yeah, those library fines. I think the librarians cheer as we leave knowing that we’ll be helping to fund the library for the next month. Sigh. And I try to be good! It’s just that inevitable book that gets put in the pile of books next to someone’s bed that then gets put in a new pile somewhere else…:)

      • Rana says

        Yes that one got to me too. Library fines are my “Evil Nemesis”. I never thought to put library fines in my budget. Thanks for the tip.

      • says

        We’ve never had problems with fines, yet, but my girls are still little. What we’ve done is spray-painted a huge diaper box (a Costco one!), cut out a strategic front, & labeled it “Library”. The rule is, it doesn’t matter if you’re in the middle of reading it, if you’re done for the time being, it gets put back into the box. Mom & Dad have to follow the rule too!

        Hopefully someone finds this idea helpful!

        • Rachel says

          We have a table in the corner of the living room and all library books must go back when they are done. My really little ones have to stay in the LR to read any and all library books. This helps a lot.

    • says

      Absolutely! Our library is wonderful in that they don’t charge fines on children’s books, which is awesome, except that my older one already gets books from the young adult section – there are fines on those. Oh – and they do charge for children’s books, if you can’t find them for about 6 months or so …:) I just try to consider it a donation to the library!

  5. says

    I was “Amen”ing over her as though Billy Graham was doing an altar call. Things I would add to the list, the ones you mentioned and “I could never have the patience myself.” Um, hey, I did not have the patience when I started. God gave me the patience I needed when I needed it. By the way, why in the world would you not be patient with your child? Patience comes out of love, didn’tcha know? I posted this on my FB page as a Public Service Announcement. Now my friends who don’t homeschool will know what not to say to me this school year. They have been warn…uh, cautioned.

    • Dianne says

      I have heard this one! I don’t know which is worse, assuming I am some kind of saint or that the person speaking is saying some pretty negative things about his or her children and/or parenting skills! Perhaps I should just respond, “I don’t have any special skills, but I feel called to homeschool so I just jumped in and am figuring it all out along the way.” Goodness knows – I feel like I am the least patient person I know and I am “easy going” because well it’s just easier than worrying about all the little details….path of least resistance, certainly not patience. LOL.

  6. Miss Sniz says

    I remember when we pulled our kids out of school to homeschool them. I ran into my daughter’s previous teacher at Subway that summer and when she heard I was going to homeschool, she said with this condescending voice, “Oh, I could NEVER do that.” I KNOW she meant, “Even with all my superior training and education, I would never presume to think I could actually teach children what they need to know AT HOME. What makes you think YOU can, you poor, misguided soul?” I could almost hear her shaking her head at me in pity.

  7. says

    Of course the one that gets to me also is ” what about the socialization?” GRRRRRRRRRRRR
    Have you met my kids?
    They have better conversations with adults than they do with kids their own age.

    I like what Time Hawkins said when people ask about socialization and homeschooling,”when you go to public school you get in trouble for socializing

    • Angela says

      Oh! This one gets me too! I always want to ask, “Have you met my children?” They’ll talk you under a bus, very politeliy I might add! Even when they are playing with other children, they are the most polite and well-behaved ones at the playground (not bragging, it’s just true). The best place to learn socialization is in the home, learning from parents who model appropriate behavior and correct inappropriate behavior.

    • Colleen says

      I will be starting Kindergarten with my son this fall, but I’ve been researching and talking about homeschooling since he was born. My family still asks me how he’s going to have any friends. I always have to remind them of the playgroups he’s been a part of since 7mos, his Little Ninjas class, and his church friends that he sees EVERY week. Not to mention that he has had more friends (of multiple ages) at his birthday parties than his cousin who is in school!

      AND my son can and will converse (not just talk to) with anyone of ANY age.

      The public’s misconception about socialization drives me batty! :)

  8. Dawn says

    Very funny! I giggled the whole article. I told my hubby last year…”look…consider printer ink and library fines the fee for homeschooling. It is still cheaper than private school…or public school for that matter.”. He hasn’t complained since I put it like that. Lol! Now…if we could just find his socks and underwear! :)

  9. Lindsey says

    That whole library thing…. I asked the library if I could just give them $20.00 to put in an account and have them subtract it as I run into fines. You may have purchased the letter “L,” but we have have the letter “i” over here.

  10. says

    #7 is me. And I have no excuse. My dh works for the library system, 5 days a week he can return library items. Yet I still get overdue fines. A lot.

    • says

      Tell hubby to institute a “no fines for food” day – it is where the library’s forgive your fines if you bring in food for the food bank! I am holding out hope for one of those – Of course, I will have to provide a 4 course banquet for the food bank.

      • LauraZim says

        Our library does this! Actually, our library accepts items for the local food pantry and offers one dollar off for each item brought in, up to $10. They also barter volunteering in exchange for knocking the fine down–$1.00 per hour volunteered. It was in this way that our now 15-year-old son began volunteering on Saturdays at the library! He started last summer, worked off his fine, and continues to volunteer every week. And yes, we still rack up fines–those $1.00 per day video fines stack up pretty quickly. Each time I pay it off, I quip to the librarian, “Support your local library: bring your books and movies in late–and pay your fines!” I’d say we own a letter or two of the sign here, too….and I know what they cost, since my husband is in the business of designing, selling, installing and repairing signs of all kinds! 😉

    • Rosana says

      When I worked at a library, the workers and librarians had no fines because they knew we didn’t return stuff on time.

  11. Rana says

    #’s 2,4, & 7 really hit home. Mac and cheese is my go to dinner besides using the crock pot 3 x’s a week. This is getting printed and posted on my refrigerator. Thanks I needed this giggle today!

  12. Jen says

    Oh, the laundry is the big one over here. Digging in the dryer for clean underwear – seems a daily occurrence! :) I do feel I’m cheating with the library fines, though. A local librarian, after seeing the enormous amount of books I was checking out, asked if I was a teacher. I said I was a homeschool teacher and he suggested I get a teacher card. No due date or fines….seems I’m spoiled.

      • kitamu S says

        Me too…that was very thoughtful of the librarian to even notice the situation and offer a solution…that’s customer service.

    • Casey says

      One more to add to your list. Those school books cost WHAT????
      Every year we buy the new curriculum, and every year we get the same response. Even though we save the older one’s books for the younger one to use, there are still always the workbooks (and homeschooling experience as we learn what works best with each child) to factor in. Plus the cost of ink to copy everything I need to save for the younger one.Despite all the advantages and reasons homeschooling was chosen, someone inevitably asks, wouldn’t it be cheaper just to send them to public school? (I don’t know. Can you wear pajamas to public school, while you are waiting for your turn at the shower?)

  13. Celeste says

    I was laughing the whole time while reading this. My top two are the laundry and the library fines. We are always looking for socks and missing library due dates.

  14. Anon says

    So true…but in our case *DAD* is the homeschooling parent making mac and cheese while working with our children. *I* am the one that has to remember these points! :)

  15. elissa says

    i dislike hearing, “i could NEVER do that. i like my own time too much.” it hurts my heart, especially when their children are around to hear it.

  16. Jennifer Jarrett says

    I really liked this article and each one was spot on. I too dislike comments that range from ”I don’t have that kind of patience for that with my kids(said in front of all of theirs and mine)! to “no wonder your clothes don’t match with your plate so full”! I actually had forgotten to pretty myself up on an unplanned for emergency trip to town type of moment–oh well, life happens and I don’t want to miss it along with the people I get to experience it with!

  17. Charmaine McKay says

    The things that bother me are, when the youth group leader at the church thinks that since your children are Home schooled, and all the other teens are at ‘school’ that your teens have lots of time to come over in the middle of the day and paint the youth building, and clean the grounds, but never asks the public school teens to do this on Saturdays. Or scheduling youth activities on teacher conference days and expecting that all the teens have the day off.
    Or Home school groups that have so much going that you don’t have time for your own schooling and expecting new moms to do as much volunteer as those who have been doing this for a long time.
    If a Home school group is this involved beware ladies.

    • Eric says

      I am a former vocational youth director. I have found that many youth groups unwittingly create divisions within the family. The church should be supporting the families that are working to disciple their own children — especially those that are homeschooling. Somehow, we’ve allowed the culture of expertise to creep into our thinking about raising our own God-fearing children.

    • Doris Heald says

      Or the youth pastor and his wife that keep telling your child that they should not be homeschooled, they should be in private school. If I had wanted them in private school they would have been in private school

  18. rebecca says

    You can’t protect your kids from the world through homeschooling. They need to learn how to deal with tough situations. They learn that by jumping through hoops at school and dealing with difficult people. This prepares them for “real life.”

    I just roll my eyes when I hear this and say. I am teaching character. Character can handle situations. School can’t give you practice for everything in life but character can!

    • Wendy says

      I actually had a therapist tell me and my son that “school is where you learn how to handle attacks on your character and self worth
      “. REALLY?! I thought that school was where you are educated. Why would I want my child’s character and ego attacked by bullies when he is trying to learn who he is? Wait for that when his ego and self worth is already intact for the “attacks” of the adult bullies!

      Love this article!

  19. Sarah @BloomnKidCrafts says

    This made me breathe a sigh of relief. Unfortunately #4 and 7 resonate with me. I’m going to pay a $50 fine tomorrow and was feeling very ashamed about it. Now I can relax. As far as other people I’m learning to grow thicker skin and am satisfied that I can also go to bed every night feeling exhausted and elated and… well, satisfied that I’m doing my best and my daughter is growing unlike she would with a stranger. Thanks so much for this.. now I can sleep easier before handing in my fine tomorrow :)

  20. Jennifer S says

    Those are GREAT!!!

    I must add to the media one though… Hours of media every day – not – but there was a day not too long ago when my kids make it part of the way through an entire season of Little House on the Prairie DVD’s because I had called a vacation day. I needed some time to do dishes, fold laundry, and basically think an entire sentence w/o being interrupted…

    And another one I heard recently – “well, it is good that the state makes homeschoolers test their kids – that way all those people who dont know what they are doing are checked up on…” as if most homeschoolers are doing it to slack off… if I wanted to slack off, I would send my kids to school for 8 hours a day so “I can do my own thing” !!! It was fun to watch their face when I told them that we dont have to turn in the test scores… ACK! No one is watching us crazy homeschoolers??? Oh man, I love freaking people out… 😉

  21. BeccaSinclair says

    Yes! Loved these… especially the mac and cheese, expect for us that usually means a big bowl of popcorn! haha! I need to send this to my husband! :)

  22. Nicole says

    Oh, I am feeling very blessed that we live in a town where the library does not charge late fees!!!!!
    I am pretty sure we would be better off buying the books if they did…lol!

  23. kitamu S says

    The one about library fees made me laugh…then cry…I felt a relief knowing that I am not so “abnormal” after all…

  24. Michelle says

    This is a great article that deserves to be shared, and I got it from a friend. :) But seriously, home school families, think about donating time or money (not just fines, LOL) to the the local libraries you go to all the time – the ones around my area even have special home school activities – start one in your area too!!! :) Some grocery stores let you sign up your church or Y or library to earn community rewards as you spend – Give back and be an example, and don’t worry about those darn naysayers!

  25. Angela says

    Don’t ask me why me and my children were in pjs all day. Sometimes, getting dressed is the last thing on my mind to do. As long as they are fed (my go-to is cereal for dinner, not make and cheese), then they are fine!

  26. Fran Conner Reese says

    I have great admiration for my daughter who. Manages to teach two 7th graders and care for a3 year old. And work part-time (thanks James) in the ER

  27. Kelly Daly says

    Just don’t ask me if there’s anything you can do to help, and then say, “…mmmmmmm, I think I’ll let you do that,” when I tell you what it is.

  28. Crystal Organ says

    Mine has to be when people start quizzing my kids. My kids are always taken off guard and have no clue what they are asking. Which makes me look like my kids aren’t being schooled at all. I just want tell them that I don’t quiz your kids, how about you leave mine alone. Drives me nuts.

  29. Priscilla says

    I love the people who start inquiring about how the state makes sure I’m teaching my kids something. “Well, HOW do YOU know that they’re learning anything?” “Don’t you have to TEST them to find out if they’re keeping up?” “What if you didn’t do anything and just pulled them out of school because you didn’t like getting up early?”

    I wonder to myself why I’m wasting my precious time talking to these people? I homeschool and work full-time, I don’t have time to hold your hand while you justify sending your kids to public school. I don’t hate public school, I just chose a different path. I’m cool with the fact that you DIDN’T. Let’s talk about the weather instead. Seriously, it doesn’t raise my blood pressure as much ^_^

  30. Laura says

    Seriously, sometimes the Homeschool Dad (God love him!) needs to be given the positive alternatives of what he CAN say that won’t offend Mom after a looooong day. Years ago I told my husband (through tears) that he should ask, “Would you like me to pick something up for dinner on the way home?” instead of “What’s for dinner?” That way, if I’m completely frazzled, he will be my hero and save the day, and if I did manage to get dinner started, I can tell him what I’m cooking and feel really proud of myself! It ultimately accomplishes the same thing for him – he finds out what’s for dinner, which is all he really wanted to know, but it makes all the difference in the world to me, and makes me feel appreciated. It inspires me to want to cook dinner for such a thoughtful husband! So if it’s your husband who is unintentionally hurting your feelings by asking you a no-no, give him some feedback (in a loving way) about how it makes you feel and how he might rephrase the question. It worked for me!

  31. Donna says

    I don’t agree with all of this. I think, as adults, it is our job to teach our children that life has rules and deadlines that we must follow. Returning library books ON TIME is a great place to start this lesson. To return books in a constantly or commonly late manner, is just teaching them irresponsibility and a disregard for rules. As a homeschooling mother of 3, our home is for the most part, tidy all the time. I didn’t say spic-and-span clean, I said tidy. I am pretty organized in this way, but not perfect. And as for the women who comment, ‘oh, I could never be around my kids all day!’…well, this is just sad to me. I adore being around my children.

    And, that is my 2 cents! =)

    • Rebecca says

      Donna–that’s great that you can be organized and timely, but unfortunately not all of us excel in those areas. Has it occured to you thatthose of us who return library books late, etc…probably have strengths that you don’t? I once attended an excellent homeschool seminar where the speaker made me realize that God has placed every one of our children with the mom that suits their needs–with both their positive and negative attributes. Let’s have grace for one another rather than picking on someone else’s weakness. Moms on here were just being “real” to encourage one another–not to be condemned by another homeschooling mom.

  32. Jessica Stafford says

    My kiddos are not schoolage yet but as a former homeschool kid its something we are seriously considering so i love this. i wanted to share my library helperi signed up for something called library elf there is a free and a cheap version andit sends emails and texts about what books are due when. i llget fines but nothing like i used to!

  33. says

    I’m thankful. My husband only commits #4 and a variation of #5 (“I told so-and-so they could stay with us while they are in the area. They’ll be here tomorrow.”) To number 4, I say, “I haven’t moved the washer. When you figure out the answer, I have confidence you will know what to do…” LOL

  34. says

    I didn’t even make it half way through this before I was cracking up. Have you been listening in at my house? I read it out loud to my husband and he laughed too.
    Great post!

  35. Rebecca says

    I am starting to hate hearing, “oh I could never homeschool”. I know that it’s not for everyone but it is starting to make me think I’m a freak. It also makes them look poorly because I’m no Wonder Woman and it seems like an excuse for laziness. Honestly, no matter what school your children attend, home or otherwise,the best students only come from involved parents.

  36. vivian mcwhiney says

    This was wonderful , my kids ask how did she know about our lives? , specially # 4
    Is so good to know we are not the only ones .

  37. says

    bwahaha! I get that “how do you do it?” question all the time. Many of my acquaintances who have only 2 kids – and readers – wonder how I do and that they couldn’t possibly, but it’s just life and we live it. I remember when I had one and then two kids…Now having four is crazy compared to then. But we survive and it’s normal for us.

    My husband is pretty super about days {weeks} I let the house go or don’t plan dinner well enough {still frozen on the counter}.

    Hilarious and too true though.

  38. says

    I am not sure why my house is so different but school work does get done, house is always cleaned up and cheese is still for dinner. (I homeschool 4 kids)

  39. says

    A clean home is important to my man, so he pays to have someone come in and clean once a week. It kills me when he gets home that night and asks, “Didn’t the ladies come to clean today?”

    YES!!! But that was many, many, many hours ago! And we’ve been here LIVING and LEARNING and EATING ever since. sigh*

  40. Candace says

    Mac and Cheese! Some nights even that is pushing it. We have the occasional “pick what kind of cereal you want” or “see what’s left over in the fridge and help yourself!” night. :)

  41. Rachel says

    This is all so very true, except, sadly, my children don’t eat mac and cheese-oh, how I wish they would! Another comment that bothers me is ‘Don’t forget to take some ‘you’ time.’ I know it is important to take care of ourselves so we can be good moms, but ‘me time’ sounds so selfish. I choose to homeschool knowing that I am using my time to focus on my children for the season they are at home. I will have plenty of ‘me time’ later.

  42. Mandy says

    The one that got me was from my sis-in-law when I asked her if she was still thinking about homeschooling and she said, “No I want my kids to have friends”. Yeah because homeschooling kids don’t have any friends? How insulting…..All of the people who I know that were homeschooled have friends for life, not just friendships that generally dissolve after highschool.

  43. Michelle H. says

    I didn’t have time to read through all the comments, so I’m sorry if this is a repeat.
    The one that bothers me the most is the question about socialization. As if school is the ONLY place they see other kids of the same age group! My library has toddler time (we discovered this quite by accident and have only gone once due to rampant illness lately), and this room is FULL of kids around my daughter’s age. There’s playgrounds, sports, music, dance classes. Karate (or some form of self-defense class), even! And this is if you live away from friends and family. If you live near them, I’d be willing to bet it’s the rare extended family who doesn’t have at least 2 children of the same or comparable age. Assuming my homeschooled child won’t get any friend time in is hogwash. How about offering a playdate if you have a kid close to my kid’s age? Or, if you have no kids, why not say, “Oh, she does all that?! That’s amazing!”? My kid has a social life. Right now, it consists of the people she needs (like Mommy and Daddy – & until days ago, her cousin). As she needs to expand her social circle, rest assured, it will happen. Safely, slowly, and in ways that ARE good for her.

  44. Richelle Hull says

    I am not a mother. I don’t homeschool children. My sister does, however, homeschool her 5 boys (ages 3.5 to 14). She amazes me. No, she doesn’t have it completely together, but the boys are polite, fun, and so darn smart!!! So what if the Legos are still on the dining room table when Daddy comes home??? Mothering is the toughest job around. Adding homeschooling makes it that much more difficult. You ALL amaze me. Thank you for making sure that the next generation is not going to be as bad as some people think it will be. Kudos to all of you!!!

  45. says

    Clicked over from twitter. We barely homeschooled pre-k this year and still met most of the above list. I cannot wait for the battlezone that our house will become when we are doing kindergarten next year full-time. At least my hubby does the dishes, so I usually will put in effort for a “real” meal a few times a week.

  46. says

    I always felt that “I don’t know how you do it all!” really implied “I’ll bet you don’t really do any of it very well.”

    But that’s just me. I’m generally suspicious.

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