10 Myths About Homeschooling Families

In my eight years of homeschooling our children, I have heard a variety of stereotypes about homeschool families. Some of them are birthed out of pure ignorance, while others have a glint of truth behind then. And the funny thing is that I used to believe some of them. Below you will find some of the various things I have heard at the park (here is a funny story about a question my daughter was asked at the park), cafes, church, military functions, and other places regarding homeschool families. I have heard so many that I have decided to limit it to a list of ten.

Homeschoolers only hang out with other homeschoolers and talk about homeschooling all day.
Well, I can’t say that I haven’t seen this within the homeschool community, however, I see us as being a lot more diverse than that!

Only religious freaks who live in the mountains would homeschool their children.
{Insert LOTS of laughter here.} I actually used to think this! But the funny thing is, I heard a woman in front of me in line at the Grafenwoehr Post Exchange say this the other day; and she was serious. I immediately started laughing – you know the kind of laugh you let out that you cannot control and then the tears start coming? Yes, that was me, and I just couldn’t help myself.

Homeschooled children are not athletic.
What? Not sure where that came from, but at the end of the day, peoples athleticism has absolutely nothing to do with how they are receiving their academic education. Come take a peek in my house and you will see three homeschooled children who are extremely athletic which has nothing to do with homeschooling!

Homeschoolers are socially inept.
While this may be true in some cases, I would say that the vast majority of homeschoolers are actually much more prepared for interacting with all different types of people. Most homeschooling families I know are not segregating their children by race, age, social class, etc. Therefore most homeschooled children are socializing with ALL types of people. This to me is a clear advantage of real world preparedness for when our children venture out into real life on their own.

Homeschoolers just sit at home all day and do nothing.
I don’t know about you, but I hardly sit down during my waking hours. This homeschool momma is certainly not sitting down all day, and I would hardly describe all I get accomplished on a daily basis as “nothing.” Truthfully, when I hear statements like these, one word comes to mind – ignorance. Can I get an Amen?

Homeschoolers are too sheltered.
In my personal experience, I have seen the international homeschool community provide opportunities for our children that being “sheltered” would never allow for. From taking field trips to any place we desire to volunteering at orphanages all over the world, I would say that this statement is definitely FALSE when looking at the majority of homeschooling families.

Homeschool children cannot go on to college.
Simply NOT TRUE. As many of us know, a lot of colleges, universities, and technical schools are now seeking out homeschooled children. In our time of homeschooling I have watched several of my friends children graduate from their homeschool to go on to all types of higher education institutions. As a matter of fact, one of my dear friends just got word that her daughter received a Presidential scholarship to an Ivy League college!

Homeschool families focus too much on education.
I can see how one could perceive this. Truthfully there are times where I get annoyed by some homeschool parents who are always talking to their children {regardless of their age} in a condescending tone making sure they DO NOT miss how educational EVERYTHING is. But hey, just because this is not my cup of tea doesn’t make it wrong. But in a more serious note, isn’t everything we do in life education of some sort? Even if we are not “trying” to learn something, the reality is that we are always learning. Through good and bad choices, we are constantly learning. It is what we chose to do as individuals with the knowledge we posses that really makes or breaks who we are. I am happy that we are choosing to expose our children to lots of different life experiences while at the same time teaching them how to make the right decisions. And after they depart from our home, we just pray that they will use it all in a productive way.

Homeschooled children cannot join the military.
Wrong. My husband, who is an Active Duty Army soldier has received five different new soldiers under his leadership that were homeschool graduates. It is a common misconception that homeschool children cannot join the military. But the bottom line is that they can.

Homeschooled children are always really really smart.
Sure, I believe that ALL people are intelligent in the ways that God has called them to be. However, saying that ALL homeschooled children are all really, really smart from an academic perspective is simply not true. Rather I believe that all people are gifted in a unique way to contribute to the world from their unique perspective all the way through adulthood.

Any of you who have been homeschooling longer than a day know that this list is a drop in the bucket compared to all the myths that surround homeschooling families. Nonetheless, I wanted to explore these a little bit and also give some of us something lighthearted to think about today!

What are your favorite myths about homeschool families? Leave a comment below and let us know!


Carlie (5 Posts)

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      • Lana says

        Dreaming of homeschooling on a mountain, with my 5 kids, with no shoes on, shelling beans, listening to mountain music, and making my own soap. Those of us who don’t have any mountains – are just purely jealous. (At least I am. ๐Ÿ˜‰ LOL!)

        • says

          Land was meant to be flat.


          Love and hugs from your friendly neighborhood Houstonian (and former resident of a community known as “The Prairie”)

        • says

          Well, I do all of the above, and it is heavenly! But I usually try to put on shoes when the tourists come around. Don’t want to reinforce *too* many stereotypes. ๐Ÿ˜‰

          • Sara says

            I would like to point out that this whole mountain stereotype is clearly WRONG… I may garden, go barefoot, hang laundry on a line, and do a lot of canning and preserving, but this whole “in the mountains” thing is outrageous!! I live at the BASE of the mountain. ๐Ÿ˜€ Sorry, had to say it. Quite literally, the only thing behind my house is a yard big enough for a garden and a woodpile, and chicken coop, and then there is a wooded mountain.

  1. says

    My mom used to think that all homeschoolers were anti-government militia types. Yes, she actually said that. And, for the record, I love those days (rare though they may be) when I can sit around my house all day doing nothing. I would say that’s why we take summer break, but we’re on our first week of summer break and I haven’t had a “sit around and do nothing” day yet.

  2. says

    Love this one, Carlie: “Even if we are not โ€œtryingโ€ to learn something, the reality is that we are always learning.”

    I want to punch people when they say, “I’m a lifelong learner.”

    “Well, duh,” I think. “If you ain’t learnin’, you’re dead.”

  3. says

    “Are you worried she won’t be socialized?” No, she meets all kinds of people thru out the day. (she isn’t locked in the closet learning) She enjoys the park (boy, she is lucky not to have to do school work LOL) Oh, and she loves her PJ’s. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    It is a real shame that stereotypes still keep peoples minds closed.

  4. says

    “You can go to jail if you’re kids are not in public school, ie homeschooling is illegal.” Then I ask them if they ever keep up on the news, because in California, former Governor Schwarzenegger nipped that rumor in the bud.

  5. says

    Oh! There are just so many! How can I pick just one?

    The myth that they are spoiled and get whatever they want, don’t have a schedule, and lay around in pajamas all day.

  6. says

    We’re “religious freaks” {corrected…more so… Jesus Freaks}, none athletic {unless you count golf as being athletic…we do it for fun}, introverted hermits {socially inept=}, sheltered, none college-going {well the kids anyways… my husband and I have too many student loans for pretty much no reason to allow our children, especially our daughter to make the same mistake}, none-military {not that there is anything wrong with the military…just goes back to the introverted hermits that we are…doesn’t go too well with military life… but our son is only 8… that may be his calling…which we’d gladly accept… and be military people}, and really smart people who focus a little too much on our education…AAAANNDD…we’d LOVE to live in the mountains. So I guess we don’t help with the homeschoolers stereotypes…but that’s what makes homeschooling SO great…we are all free to be ourselves… no need to “fit in” somewhere! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Very good post by the way! =)

  7. Erica says

    Today we were in the backyard garbed in feathers and ankle bells and dancing to Native American drumming as part of our Plains Indians unit. I bet THAT’S gonna get the neighbors chatting.


  8. says

    One of the kinda funny myths I hear is that homeschoolers don’t get snow days. Our response to that one has always been “Nope. But we get it’s too nice to stay inside days.” To which the public schooler always cries “unfair!”

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