I’m sure that many parents – homeschooling or not – have concerns about whether or not their children are prepared for life when they near the end of high school. However, for homeschool parents, I believe there can be an even greater weight of responsibility, since they’ve been tasked with not only parenting their children, but also providing their education. If there are gaps or missing skills, it all falls to them.
If you have a child in high school, you may become acutely aware of all they haven’t learned – in both their education and practical living skills. You may find yourself feeling a little panicked, trying to figure out how to cram in a whole lot of learning into a short amount of time. Whether your child goes to college or not is irrelevant; there are still many things he’ll need to know to make a life on his own.
I say this, because this is exactly where I’ve recently found myself, with a senior and junior in high school. How in the world can I squeeze a myriad of educational and practical living skills into the remaining months of this school year? Let’s see, if we do longer school days, take no breaks, and work in the evening, maybe we could get a lot of this in. Right. That will make for a fun learning environment…or not!
But one day I stopped looking at it from my homeschool mom perspective and thought about life when I was 18. Did I know everything when I graduated from high school? Hardly. Was I thoroughly prepared for everything life might throw my way? Not at all. Did I still manage to live my life, learn these things along the way, and survive? Yep. In fact, I’m still here, still learning, still figuring out this thing called life. I would imagine that you weren’t much different when you left high school. And you’re here, too. It’s not always easy, but we make it.
The reality is that we cannot prepare our children for every life circumstance. We can’t teach them everything they will need to know. There will be times when they need to research something, talk to friends or family and ask for advice, pray diligently through a situation, or even just muddle through. But isn’t that part of what makes us who we are? Isn’t it in the struggles and hard times that we are refined and matured? And aren’t those lessons the ones that stick with us most of all, precisely because we had to grapple through them?
There are still things I wish to impart to my boys, but I also have to remember that they can’t possibly know everything before they graduate. I also have to trust that God has them safely in His strong hands, and He is faithful. Plus learning, growing, and wrestling things out is a part of everyone’s lives – including my kids and yours.