Homeschool life has a positive impact on family relationships.
- We were able to continue parent-child bonding up until they really were too big to sit on my lap any more. When kids are at home during the Kindergarten and early elementary years, they can get the individual attention and natural compassion they still need from their parents. My kids did plenty of their early learning sitting on my lap, or at least close enough to me so that they could share those early victories with me and get an enthusiastic hug or word of praise from mom. And from dad as soon as he got home from work that same day. No waiting until the parent-teacher night to find out how well they were doing, what they needed to work on, or to be told how proud we are of their accomplishments.
- Our intelligence and authority as parents was not undermined by contrary teaching. Sadly, in today’s schools it is a common message to students that their parents are backwards or bigoted or not to be trusted. Whether it’s with their math homework or their moral standards, parents are being shut out of their children’s lives, and often it’s not even subtle any more. As homeschoolers though, we were able to bring up our children following our convictions, and not have to worry that they were part of some social experiment. That didn’t mean they never challenged our authority or accused us in the time-honored way of teens that “parents just don’t understand”. It did mean that they were brought up to honor and obey us, and that they learned first-hand that although we might make mistakes, we could always be trusted to love them and to want the very best for them.
- We really got to know each other deeply as we lived and worked and learned together throughout their entire childhood. We learned to talk to each other and to communicate well. We have a ton of fun together. We have the blessing of time spent together. Even though our kids have played sports and had music lessons and we’ve all got outside commitments, our schedule still has room for us to sit down to dinner as a family almost every night of the week. And I have the privilege of having lunch with at least one kid most days as well.
Now we allow our kids to own faith for themselves, and start making more of their own decisions, while we are still available to do a little coaching. We’ve done our best to bring our children up as we believed God had called us to, which included homeschooling. How exciting it is to enjoy great relationships with these young adults, thanks to the foundations we laid while they were young.