5 Things Every Overwhelmed Homeschool Mom Needs to Remember


Guest post by Rebekah of Faithful with the Little.


I have been homeschooling for 5 years now but still feel at times that I have no idea what I am doing. I easily get overwhelmed by all the demands required of me and often ask myself:

What did I get myself into?

Am I really cut out for this?

Are there any other options out there?

Will I ever figure this out?

If you have been homeschooling for any period of time I am sure you have asked yourself some of these same questions. Here are some things to remember when all those thoughts of inadequacy start whirling around in your head.

1. Why you started homeschooling

When my husband and I had our first child we knew we wanted to homeschool. We had both been homeschooled and loved the idea of being able to teach our children the Godly principles and Biblical perspective that we were taught. The unique lifestyle and freedom that homeschooling offered really appealed to us also. Ultimately we wanted God’s will for our family and this is the direction we felt he was leading us in.

When the days get hard there are many times I have asked God if there is any other way we can educate our children. So far he keeps showing my husband and I that this is the choice that is best for our family right now. When I start to panic and try to find a way out he clearly shows me why he has called us to homeschool our children. My burdens lift, my mind becomes clear and the fear and worry fades as I remember these truths. If you feel like retreating at times, remember why you started homeschooling and hold onto the convictions and priorities for your family that brought you to this place.

2.There are pros and cons to everything

Many of my friends are homeschoolers but I also have friends who have their children in public or private schools. We often share what we struggle with and what we love about our children’s schooling. It’s easy to think the grass is greener on the other side at times. There are always going to be pros and cons in life; things that we love and things that we hate. I really doubt that you will find anyone who says that they love everything about their children’s schooling. 
A perfect school is just not to be found but you can find what is best for you and your family. {Tweet this.}


So often I find myself ready to give up when things get hard, when it looks like the cons outweigh the pros. I start thinking about finding a different schooling solution for my children. But then I think about the life we have because of homeschooling and know that for today, this is the best choice for our family and the cons are small compared to the pros.

3.Take one day at a time

When I start to think about how I am going to juggle the everyday needs of my family and home on top of homeschooling, I quickly get overwhelmed. With 5 children ranging from 10 to 16 months life can get crazy.  And don’t get me started thinking about tomorrow. If I barely made it through today, how am I going to tackle tomorrow? But if I stay focused on being faithful with what God has given me to do today, I find he gives me strength to get through the hard spots and trust him with my tomorrow’s.

 Focus on what God calls you to do today and don’t let the pressures of tomorrow overwhelm you.

4.Only you know what is best for your children

As a mom and homeschooler I often find myself looking around at all the other moms, thinking that they are doing this homeschool thing way better than I am because they are doing things differently than I do or are doing more than I do. What I don’t often factor in is that even though other homeschool moms might do things differently doesn’t mean that they are doing things better. They are just doing what is best for their family.

It’s important to remember that God made you to be the mother of your children and only you know what is best for them. You are the one God has called to make the difficult choices for your children’s education.  As you teach and train them you will find what works best for each individual child.

Don’t be intimidated by all the seasoned homeschool moms but be inspired by them. Ask them how they got through the hard times, how they lesson plan, what curriculum they like. Be willing to humble yourself and learn from your mistakes, learn from your children and learn from other homeschoolers. But remember that these are your children and your homeschool, you are the teacher. Don’t be afraid to do things differently and don’t be afraid to follow the example of those who have spent years in the trenches gaining experience and knowledge.

Yes, there are going to be days when you have no idea what you are doing, when you feel inadequate, unqualified, weak and inexperienced but as you persevere and figure things out you will find out what works best for you and your family.
“But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong.” 1 Corinthians 1:27 ( ESV)

5.It’s all in your head

Do you ever wake up feeling great, ready and excited to conquer the day only to be deflated when things don’t go as you had planned? Hand raised! I can have the best schedule, the best curriculum and the best methods but if things don’t play out as I’ve pictured in my mind I get easily discouraged.

One thing we often forget to calculate into our days is our sin nature. Yes, we might have our days perfectly organized down to the last minute but that doesn’t mean our children will always cooperate or we will respond in the right way. You could say I am a bit of a control freak. I get frustrated with my kids when they dare to have their own free will and then I get frustrated at myself for lashing out in anger and impatience.

It’s oh so easy to get down in the dumps and start second guessing myself. I usually start complaining and whining that this homeschooling thing is just too hard and I am not cut out for it. But really it’s a battle of mind over matter. There are always going to be difficult challenges in life to face. Some harder than others yes, but if we stand firm and steadfast in what God has called us to do he will give us the strength and grace to overcome.

Homeschooling is not for everyone but for those of us who have felt called to homeschool for a season or for the rest of our children’s education we need to remain steadfast and faithful to what he has called us to do; in our hearts and minds. God is not only working in our children; developing their characters and minds but he is doing a work in us also, far greater than we could ever imagine.

Whatever your struggle in homeschooling is, know that God has chosen you, qualified you and equipped you to not only survive but remain steadfast and thrive!


Rebekah is a sinner saved by grace living out her dreams as wife to the love of her life and mother to 5 beautiful, crazy, messy little ones.(age 10-16mo.) She is learning day by day to trust God to give her grace and strength to be all he has called her to be and to be faithful with all he has given her to do. Most days you will find Rebekah fighting dirt, dishes and loads of laundry, snuggling sweet chubby babies, delighting in seeing her children play, create and learn and enjoying anything chocolate at the end of a long school day. You can follow her on her journey on her blog faithful with the little where she shares he heart, struggles, DIY, recipes and more.


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Why Are You Home Educating Anyway?

Guest Post by Aimee Imbeau.

How do you respond when you are asked this question?  Are your immediate thoughts regarding the failing public system?  Are you tempted to argue that you are the one who can provide your children the best education possible? 

Maybe we chose this path so that we may protect them from the big, bad world.

If the above reasons, or reasons like them, are our main reasons for home education, I think we are missing something BIG here.

Why are you home educating anyway? @hsbapost

I’ve been in the homeschool world long enough to know that home education will not save our children.  It has become exceptionally simple to worship home education.  I’ve seen families use it to keep their family in a ‘safe’ bubble. Don’t get me wrong; I long to keep my children protected and sheltered.  I firmly believe that safeguarding our children is of utmost importance.  It is our responsibility as parents.


Our children’s salvation does not rely on home education.  

Only Jesus can save our children.  Let’s not lose our focus on this.

We need to understand why we have chosen to home educate our children.  In my family, these are the main reasons we “home disciple” our children:

1.     I’m home educating so that my children will fulfill the Great Commission. “Then Jesus came to them and said, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”  Matthew 28:18-20, NKJ.

2.     Home education is a wonderful opportunity to develop the love for God’s word within my children and to deepen their belief in His word and in who He is.

3.     I can teach my children that His word is ultimate truth.  We need the next generation to know that God’s word is truth and to respect God’s word as authority.  We have absolutely no business redefining God’s word. 

4.     I am better equipped to teach my children to know God’s word.  If my children know what His word says, if they trust and believe God at His word, then it will be more difficult for them to be swayed and deceived by false teachings.  It is easier to deceive the biblically illiterate.

5.     I think the best reason for home educating our children is so that they will fulfill the greatest commandment.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”  Matthew 22:37, NKJ 

This is the first and greatest commandment. My absolute main reason for home educating my children is to teach them to love an amazing God.  They can be the smartest kids, get into the best schools, make a ton of money, but if they fail to love God as Jesus commanded, then I have seriously missed the mark and done them a great disservice.      

A New Covenant

A favorite verse in the home school realm is Deuteronomy 6:7-9; and rightfully so.  Scripture should be spoken of regularly in the home.  But I’d like to add another verse to this premise:

“I will put My laws in their minds and write them on their hearts; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.”  Hebrews 8:10, NKJ

Under the new covenant, the word of God is written upon the heart, not just around the home.  I want the Word and the gospel to penetrate the mind and heart of my children.  I want their hearts transformed.  

How do I do this?  I have many methods and activities that we carry out consistently.  One area we focus on daily is our worship.  Here are some ideas:

  • We have a worship playlist set up in YouTube.  The songs are played and lyrics are on the computer.   This makes for a very easy worship time since I don’t play an instrument nor do I have the gift of singing. One of the blessings of our morning worship is when I hear my youngest tell me “I have a song in my head” – and it is the worship song we sang that morning – even an old hymn!   
  • I allow children to take turns choosing songs and ‘leading’.  My kids love picking songs for the family to sing.
  • We listen to Christian music through KLove online radio during our lessons.  Sometimes an upbeat song comes on and we have to turn it up (PE?).  
  • I recently discovered Hymn unit studies online.  My children have fallen in love with Jesus more through studying and singing hymns.  Hymns like “Before the Throne of God”, “Be Thou my Vision”, “How Deep the Father’s Love for Us”, “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross” are ones we have journeyed through together.  
  • Many songs are based upon scripture verses – both hymns and contemporary music.  We find those verses in the Bible and discuss them.  My kids get excited and joyful when they correlate scripture and their favourite songs.  I’ve recently discovered that these songs have helped significantly with scripture memorization!
  • We investigate other ways to worship God such as through visual arts, making up our own songs (writing a Psalm!!), dance, poetry, appreciating God’s creation and more.

Worship is one of the many ways I instill God’s truth in the hearts of my children.  How have you brought worship into your home education?  

Aimee Imbeau

Aimee is a home educating support teacher who lives in the sunny Okanagan, BC.  Aimee has been blissfully married for 17 years and still swoons at the sight of her tall, dark and handsome husband, Marcus.  When she isn’t home educating her 3 kids, she enjoys sewing, quilting, scrapbooking and having heart to heart talks with girlfriends.  She blogs over at A Work of Grace. 

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Division of Labor, Multiplication of Love


There are many non-obvious benefits to homeschooling.

In this post I want to talk about the fact that, done properly, homeschooling will actually strengthen marriages.

Homeschooling Can Strengthen Marriage ~ A Homeschool Dad's Perspective @hsbapost

Nothing pains me more than to see homeschoolers make classic mistakes. It can be so hard just to muster the courage to remove one’s children from *the system* in the first place….that I hate to see failure on much easier decisions and actions.

Just off the top of my head I would say that some of the classic mistakes include: recreating “school at home”, trying to purchase educational results, submitting to Minecraft, television, and cell phone mania, adopting the ridiculously low standards of government schools, trying to constantly make learning “fun”….and one more – having one parent do ALL OF THE HOMESCHOOLING.

Recently I was on a “homeschool dad” forum and one after another admitted that their wives do “99% of the homeschooling”. Some declared themselves the “principal” of their family’s homeschool, whatever that means. My gut reaction to reading all this, for the umpteenth time, was pretty negative. Although my wife’s was far more indignant! Her stance on the matter is very chauvinistic, “Hah….typical do-nothing men who think being in charge is work.”

You see, she’s employed by a large financial institution which is run by, well, the people she just described! And despite her lofty and vast responsibilities there, she still manages to play a very active role in the home education of our children. She does at least 50% of it despite 6 am commuter trains to catch and flying to so many countries that border control has trouble finding room for a new stamp on her passport!

There’s just NO EXCUSE for a homeschooling parent to, well, do nothing.

The off-parent can research materials and ideas on the web, can assign books to the kids, can go over their work each day even if for only 10 minutes.

The off-parent can help plan out each week’s assignments. They can do math. They can have important discussions with their kids. They can reinforce, rather than undermine(!), the daily rules and discipline of the household. They can email their kids interesting articles. My children, still only 8 and 10 years old, are emailing their mother all day long about their assignments and whatnot. All of this falls certainly under the heading of “homeschooling”.

Sure, exercise is important but the father who thinks his job is merely to throw a ball to his kids or explain televised football penalties, well, they aren’t doing anything more than a “school father”.

Sometimes it’s not totally the off-parent’s fault either. Sometimes they aren’t involved because the on-parent is territorial and all but discourages input or help. Think of the young mother who never lets or demands that Dad change a diaper….who then can never go away for a couple days because the baby (or Dad!) wouldn’t survive on Dad’s watch.

I’m old fashioned in many respects but am decidedly new-fashioned when it comes to the division of labor within a marriage. I feel strongly that both remunerative work and housework should be shared as much as possible. And the same goes for the homeschooling work!

After all, we are trying to raise polymaths, right? What kind of example is set for a son when Dad never does housework? How can a daughter ever learn to value math when her own mother avoids it like the plague?

It’s really incumbent on the parent who’s being squeezed out to insert and assert themselves more.

And it’s incumbent on the single homeschooling parent to demand more cooperation from their spouse.


What’s so wrong with having roles? What’s wrong with playing to our strengths as parents?

Nothing super horrible anyway. Except that such a working chemistry wastes a huge opportunity and can even introduce risks to a family.

There was a widely-read article in the Wall Street Journal recently that recommended couples marry while they are young, immature, and still struggling rather than when they were older and established in life. An early marriage was likened to a “start-up” – teeming with energy and potential and a later marriage was likened to a stodgy combination of intractable corporate behemoths.

Here’s the link again – Advice for a Happy Life by Charles Murray – take a moment to read it now. It’s short and worthy of your attention.

I couldn’t help but read that about “start-up marriages” without realizing that the very act of homeschooling is essentially a start-up.

A young family is a blank slate, a pile of clay,…it can be designed, dreamed, and sculpted into anything. Of course I’m talking about the kids, but also about Mom and Dad. Homeschooling presents a unique opportunity for a family to learn, work and grow together.

I realized that my wife and I, while having vastly different friends and hobbies, we at least have our kids in common. In addition to what we do directly with them, we’ve spent many, many nights up in bed talking about our children. We’re planning, hoping, commiserating, worrying, and strategizing any number of things: from hiring teachers, altering curricula, shifting foci of attention, how to better discipline them, etc. It can be so intense that many, many times one of us has declared, “Okay, no more talking about the kids tonight.”

Yeah of course we’ve had some legendary arguments: Spanish or French, punishments, how much academic work is enough, etc. and decision “spheres” certainly do take shape.

HOWEVER, most parents don’t have this; they don’t have this fodder to constantly talk about; as a couple, they don’t have common goals (i.e. children) they are working on, together. Sure school parents may also spend a lot of time discussing their kids….EXCEPT they are powerless to really do anything about how their kids are being raised, educated, and not to mention socialized!

The thing with marital relationships is, they either move forward and get better…..or they tragically deteriorate.

And as I said at the top, in the middle, and just above….done properly, homeschooling will strengthen your marriage – it definitely has in my case.

Lastly, I’ll explain the title of the post.

Mathematically speaking, when “labor” is “divided by 1″….it’s not effectively a division. In that case it’s more accurately a separation of labor and effectively a separation of people.


Dan (16 Posts)

Husband to Inez. Father of John and Christine. Homeschool Coach, Accelerated Math Teacher. Former derivatives trader and future scratch golfer! Follow our learning adventures at HomeschoolDad.com.

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