Perfection is Not the Target


Guest post by Kendy of The Frugal Homeschool.


Here is a typical day in our house:  We rise at 6:30 and everyone makes their bed, tidies their room and has some quiet time for personal devotions.  I am up and have breakfast made by 6:45.  We usually eat whole grain cereal or pancakes with fresh fruit and milk from our goats.  Then it’s time for chores and school work.  We can typically finish all our schoolwork by noon.  One of the girls then cooks a nutritious lunch and we have our afternoons for hobbies or field trips.

Ok, maybe this is more like it:  I wake up the girls repeatedly starting at 7:00 a.m. They stagger out of bed around 7:20.  alarm clockThree days a week they swim with me or they work out while I swim.  Then I push and push and push them to get out of the shower so we can get home and “start our day”.  They are on their own for breakfast, so sometimes it’s chips and salsa, sometimes fruit, sometimes dill pickles or leftovers if we have  eaten out the night before.  Breakfast is accompanied by a book and I begin to push again for them to “finish”.  Animals need fed and or let out and this presents another opportunity to draggggggggg things out.  You guessed it, more pushing.  Are you seeing a pattern?

Finally around 9:30 or 10:00 we have bible study together.  We are working our way through the book of Joshua right now and all three of us are copying the new testament.  bible studyThis is an ongoing project and will take them several years to finish.   After bible study/copying we start in with our subjects.  Twin number one dragggggggggggs everything out and must be pushed to complete her independent work, while twin number two rushes through all her work and is done in no time.  This presents a problem when we have subjects that we do together, as you can imagine.

After all schoolwork is done, most days by 12 or 1ish, we have lunch.  They are mostly on their own again and are happy snacking. Hubby and I have the same thing every day- chicken.  Some days I fix some for the twins, but most days they don’t want chicken.  For years I felt like “I” had to fix all the meals, and many homeschool moms (friends) told me I was crazy!  It’s so freeing, and yes, they still have to be fairly sensible in what they eat.

Quiet please signAfter lunch we sometimes have a quiet time (for mom) and sometimes we have errands to run or school to finish.  Sometimes they have had it with me and just want to spend time reading in their rooms.  That’s ok, sometimes I’ve had it with them too!  Sometimes I send them outside because I know I will have some quiet time.

Eventually we hope to really have goat milk for breakfast, but our goats are only 4 months old right now.  And sometimes we do have pancakes, but that’s only when I am really hungry for them.baby goats

We are probably not what you think of when you think of homeschoolers.  Most of our schoolwork is done in the living room lounging, or at the coffee table.  Rarely do they sit at their desks.  We do a ton of reading and most of it together.  And yes there are many days when the girls are still in pj’s!

If we are presented with an opportunity to really dive into anything that catches our attention, we’ll stop and do just that.  It may be wild turkeys in the front yard, or birds at the feeder or a family favorite, hummingbirds.  Everything comes to a halt if anyone yells “hummingbird!“.  This includes my married children and grandchildren. 😉hummingbird at feeder

We are not into textbooks either and use them very sparingly.  Give us a living book over a textbook any day.  We lean more toward a classical approach, and have studied things like Shakespeare, Latin and artists and composers of old.  Don’t think this makes us snooty, because we are anything but.

Well, that is a fairly typical day in our homeschool. We aim for a harmonious, productive, filled with learning day, and most days we are at least on the target.  Once in while we even hit a bullseye!bullseye

How about  you?  What does your typical day look like?


Kendy is a homeschool mom to 6 for the past 26 years.  She loves reading, quilting, nature, music, and family. You can read her blog at The Frugal Homeschool.





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When The Perfect Homeschool Plans Go Awry

I tiredly glance toward the clock as we finally close the last book for the day. My body feels weary to the bone, longing for my sheets. “Mommy, can we snuggle now?” the little voice asks.

Everything within me wants to say no, but my mouth forms a small, exhausted smile as I nod my head. Just for a minute, sweetie. Mommy needs to rest too.

We crawl into her bed and the next thing I know, I’m jolted awake. The house is dark and quiet. I silently move the stuffed animals to the side so I can slip out of her bed. As I linger for a minute, I kiss the sleeping beauties on their foreheads and gently stroke their hair, my heart aching for the moments I know I missed.

When the perfect homeschool plans go awry ~ encouragement and hope for the tough times

This year has not gone as planned.

This year, I’m working full time outside the home. I never intended to do that. But when the husband calls and says the Office Manager resigned and we don’t have any potential new ones, and what should we do until we find the right person… we both already know the answer to the question he hasn’t yet asked.

“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'” Genesis 2:18

So my kids and I pack up their books and we set up a mini classroom at the office. It might sound noble, but this is not ideal.

history at the office

Not coming home after work to cook dinner and do laundry and finish school lessons.

Not working 40+ hours a week and calling babysitters when there’s a work deadline and my children learning how to be quiet even when they need me because I’m on the phone with a client.

This is not what I envisioned.

This was going to be the year of fun. Field trips. Hands-on messy science projects. Filling the freezer with delicious baked goods. Caving. Biking. Exploring. Quality time.

But, God knew. This whole time. He knew.

And even during this busy-ness and exhaustion, I can see His hand in our lives. I see His mercy, His grace. I’m in awe that He brings beauty and glory right in the midst of our brokenness.

Through this, we’re learning good habits. We have to get up and get ready to go every single morning even though we’re tired. We have to stay caught up on schoolwork even though we’re busy because tomorrow might be even busier.

We can now clean the entire house in three hours, because often, three hours is really all we have.

3 hours to a haven at home

This season is tough. But it’s also an honor. I believe that God is allowing us to be put through the fire so we can be refined.

And when the school year – or anything else in life – goes awry, we can find peace and joy in knowing that God has a plan. When we trust in Him, we can rest in knowing the end results will be glorious.

“I will bring the one–third through the fire, Will refine them as silver is refined, And test them as gold is tested. They will call on My name, And I will answer them. I will say, ‘This is My people’; And each one will say, ‘The Lord is my God.’” Zechariah 13:9

“Do not fear any of those things which you are about to suffer. Indeed, the devil is about to throw some of you into prison, that you may be tested, and you will have tribulation ten days. Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.” Revelation 2:10

three crosses at sunset

If your own homeschool year isn’t going as planned, what’s giving you hope and comfort as you work through your current season?


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Davonne Parks is a married Christian homeschool mom who began teaching her children at home in 2009. She blogs about cultivating a heart for motherhood, as well as organization and simplicity, at DavonneParks.com. Davonne believes that some of life’s richest moments happen when we embrace the beauty of imperfection as we extend grace to ourselves and others. She’s written two eBooks, “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms” (free to her blog subscribers) and “28 Days to Timeliness: Tips and Confessions from a Semi-Reformed Late Person.”

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The End of the Year is Here! 3 Fun Ways to Celebrate

This post originally appeared on VibrantHomeschooling.com. Click here to read the original post.

The end of the school year is upon us!

The calendar reads June, and the last projects are being turned in.

Are you as ready for summer vacation as our family is?! Phew!

So the big question is: How are you celebrating the end of the school year?

The end of the school year is a time to celebrate!  Here are three fun ways to celebrate! Vibrant Homeschooling

How are you celebrating all of the awesome things that happened this school year? How are you celebrating all the great growth and change (in your kids, and, yes, even in you!)?

Taking Time to Celebrate Growth

Even if it’s been an especially hard year, I promise you that there was growth. There was progress made, and lives were changed.

This is the time of year when we start torturing ourselves with the “did I do enough?” thoughts. We begin to play Monday-morning quarterback and say, “If we’d only… “ or “I should have…” or (insert your form of self-torture here).

It sure is easy to be on this end of all the enormous amount of work that goes into a school year and pass judgement on ourselves.

OK, maybe your year didn’t work out the way you’d designed in your lovely homeschooling planner.

Mine didn’t either (buying and selling a home, moving, and completely switching curriculum halfway through was not on my radar last August).

But what if what happened was even more glorious, more wonderful and more exciting than anything we’d planned? I truly believe it was.

I believe all those great plans were just what got us to the starting gate, and here—at what we’ve deemed the “imperfect” finish line—is where we can step back and recognize the real victories.

And, oh my goodness… it’s critical that we celebrate those victories (even the small ones) to first, encourage our kids to keep giving their best; and second, to remind us that yes, all of this hard, hard work is worth it and is making a difference!

Here are some small-but-big things that we’re celebrating at the end of the school year:

The Innovator (11):

—He finally embraced writing this year! And math! And science! And… (notice a theme here?). Yes, this was the year that he (finally) realized that I hadn’t invented school just to torture him, but that there was a method behind this madness. Oh, we still have our days where we have the “but why…?” questions; but they are getting fewer in number, and I’m seeing them replaced with a heart eager to learn. Phew. Finally!

—He began to take more responsibility with managing his own time, and with pacing himself through assignments. Another big victory! Now (most days) I can leave him alone for an hour or more and know that he is moving through his assignments without my prompting. Huge!

—He has made great strides in overcoming his fear of speaking in front of a group. We owe a lot of this to our Classical Conversations group since the kids had to do a mini-presentation each week at our class day. This was a really good stretching for him.

—He’s grown deeply in his faith. I’ve noticed that he’s quicker to repent, and that his repentance is deep and genuine. Just last week, He and I had an amazing experience of sharing encouraging verses with one another around the topic of forgiveness.

Renaissance Man (9):

—He too has become much more self-reliant and responsible, both in his schoolwork and in his chores. He’s really loving working outside with my husband doing yard projects or other around-the-house maintenance. He’s quick to help out, and excited to learn. What a wonderful husband he will be someday!

—I’ve seen Renaissance Man mature greatly this year. There were a few instances where I saw him step up and take leadership in team projects, making plans and delegating tasks.

—He basically taught himself cursive writing this year (he was very motivated to learn), and his handwriting is beautiful!

He blew us all away with his memorization skills this year! He was always the first to memorize our weekly Classical Conversations memory work, and he’s remembered it week after week. He’s also become excellent at Bible memory work. So proud of him!

Princessa (6):

—School became a lot more formal for her this year, and she handled it beautifully. I was proud to see her jump right into the CC work and how she did a great job memorizing!

—Princessa learned how to read this year! She completed All About Reading Level 1 this year and while she still has room to grow here, I’ve seen her reading confidence level grow immeasurably.

—Her desire to serve and love Christ became more evident this year. She has a sweet and special relationship with Jesus and it was wonderful to watch her beautiful connection with God grow. I love how she is quick to pray for others, and that (even at her young age) she is not afraid to come to me with her tough questions about God.

—This little one is bold, daring and not afraid to try new things! She has proven over and over this year that, when she puts her mind to something, she can accomplish big things!

Three Ways You Can Celebrate the End of the School Year:

End-Of-The-Year Dates.

This is a really great tradition that the kids and I look forward to each year!

I take each child to a location that they would enjoy (a frozen yogurt place, coffeehouse, cupcake store, etc) and while we’re indulging in a fun treat, we talk about what the year was like. I lead the conversation with casual questions like “What was your favorite thing that we did this year?” or “Tell me something that you’d like to learn more about?” You can download my list of questions here. We also talk about what they’re most looking forward to this summer; and I help them identify what specific things they’d like to learn either this summer or next year.

If I have time, I also gather up their portfolio of work from the year (art projects, workbooks, notebooks, other projects) and we look at them again and recall learning about the material and doing the project.

Overall, I keep the conversation really positive and focus on the wonderful growth I’ve seen.

I also take notes on what they share because: one, I want to make sure I remember it; and two, I want them to know that their comments are important enough for me to write them down.

This time together is just precious because the kids feel special, honored and listened to; and I really do get some great feedback on what worked this past year, and what they’d like to change! Plan to Be Flexible talks more about these End-Of-The-Year Dates (as does this post) and gives ideas of how to incorporate these suggestions into next year’s teaching materials.

Celebration Day and Dinner.

This is something new we’re trying this year!

The End-Of-The-Year-Dates are great, but we also really wanted to have a time where my husband and I could stand up and publicly affirm each of our kids. We want this time to be about sharing the great character traits we see them developing; the ways they are a blessing to our family; and how much we love each of them for their individual talents and personalities.

We’re taking a two-part approach: first, we’re going to have a morning of pure fun (we’re taking them to a local indoor trampoline park!) and then we’re having a special dinner where they’ve chosen the menu (each one of them told me their favorite appetizer, dinner or dessert and I’ve combined them into one meal for all of us to share).

During or after dinner is when my husband and I will share our praises and pray for each of our kids individually. I also plan to put together a very simple slideshow of photos/videos from our field trips and projects.

Special Treat for Mom!

Oh yes. This is something that we must do, moms!

We think about doing end-of-the-year stuff for our kids, but we can’t forget to take the time to reward ourselves for all the blood, sweat and tears that we’ve invested in this school year! At first this may feel selfish, but it’s more than alright to give ourselves a pat on the back for the sometimes-really-difficult work of homeschooling!

This “special treat” will mean something different to all of us. Maybe for you it’s a pedicure, or a day off shopping by yourself. Maybe you decide to get together for dinner with several other homeschool moms and go to that great new restaurant that just opened nearby. Maybe you can even do a fun weekend away with some girlfriends. Or it might just be a great new pair of shoes!

To be honest, this is my first year of doing something specific for myself like this to celebrate school. I didn’t expect to do something this extravagant, but later this summer I have the opportunity to tag along on a 5-day business trip with my husband! So this is my way of celebrating!

Do what would feel rewarding and relaxing to you (and what fits in the budget)!

It doesn’t have to be a two-week-long trip to Tahiti (even though that’s probably what we all could really use right now). See what small thing you can come up with to tell yourself, “I worked super hard this year, and yes, it was enough.”

Your Turn!

Tell us about your plans! How are you going to celebrate the end of the school year? Will you try any of these ideas, or do you have other ways that your family will celebrate?

About the author:

Alicia Kazsuk writes about living the beautifully imperfect homeschooling journey at VibrantHomeschooling.com. She has been married to her best friend for 14 years and together they spend their days lovingly guiding their four passionate and creative kids.

Alicia is also the author of Plan to Be Flexible and the creator/producer of Vibrant Homeschooling’s online video courses “bloom: A Journey to Joy (and Sanity) for Homeschool Moms” and “rhythm: Guiding Your Family to Their Ideal Learning Flow.”

She believes each day offers new opportunities to grow in grace and to trust God in unexpected ways; and that “acceptance with joy” is one of the hidden secrets to a full, contented Christian life.

You can find her at Vibrant Homeschooling (http://vibranthomeschooling.com), as well as on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/VibrantHomeschooling), Twitter (https://twitter.com/VibrantHmschool) and Pinterest (https://www.pinterest.com/VibrantHmschool/).

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