Redeeming the Bad Parenting Moments


It had been a long, frustrating morning with a child who was displaying a very poor attitude. I tried desperately hard to stay patient, but after yet another round of struggling with her disobedience, sharp words flew from my mouth.

Her next sentence came in a hushed whisper, “I know that you don’t love me.”

I bit back an angry retort and instead silently pleaded to God in prayer. Please help me to be the mother she needs. Help me to see her the way you do. God please, I need you!

I knew my child was right – I was not acting lovingly towards her in that moment.

“Love suffers long and is kind; love… does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NKJV)


The precious soul I had held so tenderly as an infant – feeling certain at the time that I would always love her perfectly as I adoringly counted her tiny fingers and toes – she was trembling with sorrow and it was my fault.

Years of good – the baking sessions, messy science experiments, book reading, bike riding, park visits, and bedtime snuggles – all of it completely melted away in my mind as I felt myself drowning in guilt over my sharp outburst towards my precious daughter.

And you know what? I’m not alone.

At some point, almost every parent has been wracked with guilt over at least one parenting situation. Whether you’re the one who occasionally speaks too sharply to your children or the parent who tends to be too permissive just to keep the kids happy, there are probably times when you’ve felt like a complete failure.

That’s just where Satan wants you. He wants you to lash out, or to allow your kids to rule the house, and he wants you to feel terrible for it… so terrible that you consider giving up and sending your children to government-run schools, thinking that maybe someone else can do a better job with them.

But God, the giver of life, the redeemer of sins… He knows where you can improve but He also knows you’re doing your best. He’s the one who hand-picked you to be the parent of your children and nobody else can do that job better than you can.

And when we sin, either by speaking harshly in anger, or by letting our children get away with poor behavior, we need to go to them and seek their forgiveness. They need to see that we’re humans with flaws just like they are. This is an opportunity for us to take our children to the foot of the cross – and there’s no better place on earth we go together.


But far too often, we don’t do that because we believe Satan’s lie that we’re not good enough and that we can’t possibly do any better. So instead of letting God redeem our bad moments, we drown in guilt over our perceived shortcomings. But He knew before you started that you wouldn’t be a perfect parent or teacher and He loves you anyways, exactly how you are. This stuff you’re doing, raising your family, teaching your kids? Yes, it’s imperfect, but it’s important and you’re enough.

“And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NKJV)


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Davonne Parks is a married Christian homeschool mom who began teaching her children at home in 2009. She blogs about cultivating a heart for motherhood, as well as organization and simplicity, at Davonne believes that some of life’s richest moments happen when we embrace the beauty of imperfection as we extend grace to ourselves and others. She’s written two eBooks, “101 Time-Saving Tips for Busy Moms” (free to her blog subscribers) and “28 Days to Timeliness: Tips and Confessions from a Semi-Reformed Late Person.”

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How to Know God’s Will




God's Will

 Guest post by Anne Marie.

As a Bible Teacher, I’ve heard people ask, “I need to make a serious decision! How do I know God’s Will for me?”

Honestly, I’m slightly baffled by this question. I know I used to ask this question myself. And please do not think I’m some theological genius who has studied the scriptures for years and years and I know all the answers. I am far from that! I do not have it all figured out. I’m just a normal mom. But over the years the more I read, the more I learn how God is clear about His will in the Bible.

Let’s look at the scriptures!

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“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2, NIV, italics is mine)

Notice the word “THEN”. I love how God’s word is filled with, what I call, “IF – THEN” statements. They are scattered all throughout God’s word. {Watch for them. They are pretty neat!} These verses only have the “THEN” portion, but if you read carefully, you will see that we have to do something and THEN we can test and approve God’s Will. So what do we have to do?

Be a Living Sacrifice.

Why? How come? Well, you have to back up and go to the last verse of the previous chapter. “For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things.” (Romans 11:36a) Why do we need to become Living Sacrifices? Because God is God and we are not. All things are for God, which includes you and me. Do you have the mind of God? I think we like to consider our ways before we consider what God has told us in His Word. Yet, He is the One who is mighty and perfect in all things.

Paul is URGING us. He wants us to take this seriously. God is merciful to us, shouldn’t we at least consider what He is wanting from us? He wants Living Sacrifices.

Ok. So if being a Living Sacrifice is what God wants and THEN we know His will, then….How? How do we become Living Sacrifices?

We are to be transformed. How? By the renewing of our minds.

Here’s the next question. Think with me. HOW do we renew our minds? Look at Romans 12:3 (NIV).

Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment.”

Here are 6 ways to help you determine God’s Will for your life:

1) Understand that God is opposed to the proud. I struggle with this daily. And I know “Pride goeth before a fall!” But choosing to be humble can be hard for a strong-willed person like me. Perhaps you struggle with that as well. James tells us, God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” Are you prideful? Are you expecting God to do something for you? He does not owe us anything. [See Romans 11:36 again.]

2) Understand that you might have wrong motives in your quest. It is possible that you do not know how to make a particular decision and “know God’s will” because your motives are not pure. Search your heart! You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. (James 4:2-3, NIV)

3) Be Thankful. This is an easy one. I don’t say that because it is easy to be thankful in all situations, even though that is what God expects from us, but that the scripture is black and white on this issue. Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV)

4) Be Sanctified. “Sanctified” has become a churchy word. Basically it means to be set apart for a specific use. A pair of prescription eyeglasses are sanctified to help a specific person see better. This is another black and white section of scripture. It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-6, NIV) How are we to be sanctified? We have to control our bodies and not be like those who do not know God. He has a specific purpose for us.

5) Do Good. I have always held to the belief that if a person is not dead, then God has a work for him to do. God doesn’t like it when people sit in pews and do no good. {Again, this is another black and white statement!} Peter tells us, For it is God’s will that by doing good you should silence the ignorant talk of foolish people.” (1 Peter 2:15, NIV) If you are doing good things in the name of Jesus, then people cannot argue against you. They cannot slander your name. They might try to, but in the end they will be seen as fools.

6) Read and Obey the scriptures. This seems like something everyone should know to do, but do we REALLY do this? We might read the scriptures, but do we then OBEY them? Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. (James 1:22, NIV) Do you want to know what God’s will is? Do you REALLY want to know? Do you have a heart like David’s?

“I desire to do your will, my God;
your law is within my heart.” ~ Psalm 40:8, NIV

Is God’s law within your heart? Do I have God’s law in MY heart?

Think of yourself with sober judgement, my friend. Perhaps we, no I, need to spend more time reading and praying than making decisions in my own understanding.

God does not hide. He wants to commune with us and walk with us throughout each decision we make, large or small. He loves you and wants what is best for you and your family. God is mighty, holy, and just. And He is good. The Lord is on your side.

“He made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ.” (Ephesians 1:9, NIV)

Be a Living Sacrifice. You know what that boils down to?


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Total Surrender to Jesus. It means telling Jesus, “I am not in charge. My plans equal nothing. Your plans are everything.”

Be humble.
Have a pure heart.
Be thankful in all things.
Control yourself and be honorable.
Do good works.
Read and obey your Bible.

THEN you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

What do you need to surrender, or begin, to discern God’s will?


businesscardheadshotAnne Marie is an Austenite and the author of the blog Future.Flying.Saucers. She is a southern belle who is married to her Mr. Darcy. They have three of the silliest children in South Carolina. Anne Marie has a passion for Bible study and teaching the Word to adults and children. On Wednesday nights you will find her teaching Biblical concepts to Awana clubs at her church. All of her Awana and Bible lessons can be found for FREE on her blog. You can also find her on Facebook and Pinterest.

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Your Lofty Homeschool Ideals Might Need to Change If…


Guest Post by Kimberly A. Vogel

Lofty #Homeschool Ideals @hsbapost

I remember the lofty ideals I dreamed of when I first started homeschooling. Every activity would be meaningful and not at all standard. Real life learning would occur in every opportunity, including kids cooking and helping with chores. We would not settle on a curriculum, but would strive for the best. The evening would be filled with read alouds while we all knitted together. (Seriously, stop laughing! You know you had lofty ideals too! Maybe not the knitting part…)

We operated that way for quite some time. Learning happened in the kitchen, the backyard, and at the park. We did read alouds and my kids knitted. When the knitting needles were flung across the room in frustration we found out crochet was more the style around here. I picked the best curriculum for our family and we strived to finish every lesson.
Fast forward four years and I’m here in survival mode. The kids cook, but only to ease my load. We are so far behind when summer came we named it year round school and I only pray we finish this year. A read a-loud book hasn’t been read aloud in over a year. I can live in regret that my lofty ideals aren’t working, or I can change those ideals.

Your lofty ideals might need to change if:
  • Your plan is not working.
  • Your children grow out of the ideals.
  • Your life grows out of the ideals.

I have teenagers.

Gone are the days we can load up the car and have fun at the park while calling it school.  Here are the days where extra learning consists of SAT courses instead of ultra cool science experiments. Science experiments now require a lab, not just a backyard.

My oldest two work as a nanny for our next door neighbor. Because their homeschool day is cut short, it’s hard to find time to get it all done. Really, they could easily still get it all done, but now they work in their rooms and time management passed from my hands to theirs. Many life lessons right there…

Sometimes our lofty ideals have to change as our life changes. {TweetThis}

While it’s hard and easy to get bogged down in the regrets of what’s not happening, I need to focus on the what is. Some days are cut short because they work, but look at the real life lessons they learn while caring for a toddler! They are no longer hanging out at home with us doing read a-louds while crocheting; instead they are hanging out with friends living what we only read about in books!

While my homeschool no longer holds the lofty ideals I pictured when we started this journey, it’s only because the picture changed as my kids grew up. My big ideas of not using worksheets but real life learning changed. Now worksheets help keep us moving through the curriculum so real life living can happen.

Instead of a list of what I want my homeschool to look like, I’ve moved to a list of what I want to teach my daughters before they leave home. That is more than any curriculum!


Kimberly shares God’s love for children through her writing, and encourages moms through her blog She lives in Texas with her husband, Kevin, and four daughters. The whole family enjoys serving God as leaders in the children’s ministry at church. When she’s not homeschooling her girls, or teaching creative writing, you can find her spinning words into stories or twisting yarn or wire into crafty creations.


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