Smooth or Rough?


At lunchtime recently, I fixed myself a bowl of soup, sat down with a magazine, and proceeded to enjoy my meal. My boys weren’t yet hungry, deciding to eat later. As I finished my soup, my oldest son came in to prepare some scrambled eggs for himself. I was in the kitchen, so I pulled out the skillet, bacon, and non-stick spray. He didn’t ask, I just stepped in and helped. When his eggs were done, I got a bowl and fork out for him, in addition to pouring him a glass of milk. He never requested it; I just did so. He very often does the same for me. He seems to read me, know what direction I’m going, and jump in and help. When we mesh like this it’s a beautiful, harmonic thing.

With my younger son, it’s sometimes more like sandpaper and wood. We bump into one another and it’s rough. As we try to move, there’s a coarse rubbing that takes place. I make a request or a comment, and he bristles, adopts a bad attitude, and responds inappropriately. In turn, I react with anger, frustration, or irritation. There’s a brusque sanding that takes place. After a time, apologies are given, hugs abound, and love is shared. This is the smooth, polished part that comes after sanding.

Does that mean that my eldest and I never have rough patches? Of course not. And there are certainly times that my other son and I coast the same path together.

While you might think that one type of relationship is better, I submit to you that both are valuable and necessary. Both aspects are present in my relationship with God. There are times that I flow right along the river of God’s will, reading His mind, and jumping in without being asked. These are glorious and holy moments. But then there are the times that I bump into God and His way is different from the one I had in mind. His “touch” seems rough and uncomfortable, even harsh at times. During those difficult interactions, I have a choice. I can pull away and remain in my jagged, unfinished condition, or I can allow Him to refine my imperfections, lovingly fashioning me into His image.

May you learn to embrace both concepts in your relationship with Christ. You will find a holy balance when you can relish in the refining work of the Lord as much as in the glorious harmony of walking in His will.

“Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but grievous; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:11

“As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” John 15:9-11


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Two Chairs

Imagine this…

You’re sitting in your living room pondering life when an angel appears before you. He says that God would like you to be his guest today. No, you are not dying, He just wants to visit with you. You quickly think, “Oh, why didn’t I wear something nicer today or do my makeup?” But no sooner do you think of fixing this and you are in the presence of the Holy One.

As you begin to take in where you are, you notice the light that surrounds him is greater than any light you have ever seen. It is warm like a fire on a winter day and brings you peace like a light in a storm. The glow illuminates the whole room and you take a moment to look around. You are surprised by what you see.

It is a simple space. No great decorations and not much furniture. So empty for the King of Kings. Just two chairs facing each other. One, you notice, is rather worn while the other almost looks new and somehow familiar. Clearly, it has been sat in, but not as often as the other. God takes the worn chair and invites you to sit with him. Hesitation is in your footsteps but such peace fills you that you move to sit.

You want to speak, but you seem to have no words to say. You think, “What can I say to the one that created me, to the great I AM? Surely, he does not want to hear about my problems or the obstacles I am facing. He called me here for some reason. I will let him speak.” So in silence you sit gazing into the warm light.

Time goes by unnoticed by you. Your senses are on full alert. Your eyes see the gentleness and glory of Him. Your hands feel the softness of the cozy chair. Your ears, though the room is quiet, hear sounds that are peaceful. Smells loft about and draw memories to your mind that make you smile.

Finally, God speaks. His words are eloquent and gentle, but also firm and filled with an amount of sadness you can feel. He speaks of the thoughts you have had. The empty room and lack of greatness – He notes that he only surrounds himself with what is important to Him. The worn chair He sits in versus the chair you sit in – not many come and sit with Me, they are much too busy. And yes, I want to hear about all of you – the good, the bad, and even the funny. I long to hear you speak to Me. Yes, I know and see all, but to hear it from your mouth and heart means much more to Me. To have you sit with Me quietly or in tears or filled with laughter, brings me great joy.

You ponder what he is saying and your mouth opens. Words flow out like you are speaking to a friend, a confidant. Someone that you have known all your life. The person that will love you no matter what you say, yet holds you accountable when you waiver. The weight of your life slowly lifts off your shoulders. You stop and just listen to the silence. You feel comforted and loved. You close your eyes and just begin to worship YAHWEH.

Soaked with tears, you open your eyes and find you are back in your living room. You are saddened to no longer be in His presence when your eyes rest on the chair you are sitting in. It is the same chair that was in God’s house. It was here all this time and He was waiting for you to sit in it. Joy fills you soul as you know that you can come here any time for any reason. He is waiting for you.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

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Top 10 Homeschool Blog Designs


We like to give pats on the back to bloggers that bless the homeschool community… and it is much nicer to pat TEN bloggers on the back instead of just ONE. The winner is listed at the top on this list, but the nine runners up to Best Homeschool Blog Designs of 2012 deserve some recognition!


If you were on this list, feel free to snag our super snazzy, category-specific button as a token of our gratitude. Thanks for making the homeschool blogosphere a more sparkly and interesting place!

The Arrowood Zoo **WINNER**

Cook Family Chronicles

Confessions of a Homeschooler

Five J’s

Brighton Park

Many Little Blessings

Passport Academy

Homeschool Creation

My Heart’s Desire

Grace Place

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