Single Moms Can Homeschool!

Last week we met Regina Lewis, a single homeschooling mother of four.  This week Karen from HomeschoolGirls.net, shares with us her lifestyle as a single mom, homeschooling her daughter.

As a single mom, what kind of support system do you have?

I could not do this without the support of my homeschooling friends.  When I first started this adventure, it was just Kei and I.  I knew a few people who homeschooled just from a ‘friend of a friend’ but no one to share ideas and information with.  The first week we went to a homeschool event and I met women who would become the tapestry of my life.  These women are my lifeline and their children are Kei’s best friends.  I can honestly not imagine our lives without them.

My Mom died in 2008 and she was very supportive of my homeschooling.  My father has remarried and while they are supportive they don’t really ‘support’ us.  However they are both always there if we need them.

What advice would you offer to other single moms who are thinking about homeschooling? 

I am truly blessed because I work from home.  I did this before I started homeschooling.  The down side of this is that my job isn’t steady.  I sometimes go 3 months with no work.  But you know what? I have always made it.  I pray and God answers.  I have such a commitment to homeschooling. I love it.  I LOVE it.   It isn’t always easy. There is no one to ask to take out the garbage, run to the store for milk if your child is sick, help pick up the never ending mess that multiplies, bring in another income, and do the little things that a spouse does every day, but my rewards are so great.  I am here when she learns a new word, a new math concept, discovers a history era that fascinates her, looks through a microscope and sees something that blows her away, makes a bunny from clay,  and builds a fairy house.

The internet is full of advice, lesson plans, ideas, pictures and more.  Homeschool Moms are some of the most creative people in the world.  When I Google, I always type ‘homeschool’ with my search.  I know if a homeschool Mom posts it, it will be a great resource.   You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg on curriculum.  Ideas abound all around you.

What are some awesome ways that you’ve seen God bless your homeschool?

God is at the center of everything we do.  He hasn’t always been.  The more I make Him so, the easier my life gets.

One year there was very little money for Christmas.  We were at church and I was writing a check to tithe.  I didn’t have any extra money, hadn’t bought one thing for Kei’s Christmas.  I closed my eyes, prayed and wrote the check.  The next day my best friend called from California and said she had read Kei’s Christmas list in her blog and was sending almost everything on it to me!!!  The other things on her list my awesome Homeschool Moms pitched in and bought.

God blesses us every day.  The closer we stay to Him, the more wondrous he works in our lives.  I have always wanted to volunteer with Kei.  Since she was 3 I have tried to find volunteering opportunities.  We weren’t attending church when she was small.  I prayed to find a church that fit us just perfectly.  I got a flyer on my door about a new church where, “No perfect people allowed”.   Well I fit that description to a tee!  That church has been our home for almost 4 years and its main goal is to serve others.  WE have had so many opportunities to volunteer.  We have paid it forward, given away free gas, prayer walked for our city, volunteered at the 4th of July celebration, gave out cocoa and cookies at the Christmas parade, visited retirement homes, played Easter Bunny for our entire city, held FREE huge yard sales, and bought 22 trailers for families who lost their homes in the horrible April tornadoes.  We volunteered at a local Dream Center serving food, we serve food on Thanksgiving, we have gone to the homeless “Tent City” in a nearby city to minister to the men and women living there, and provided Christmas for children.

With God life is just easier, more amazing.  He wants the best for all of us.  If that is homeschooling, He will help you find the way.  We pray about everything.  It is as second nature to us a taking a breath.

Anything else you’d like to share?

You CAN do this!   Find something you can do at home.  Live simpler.  Kei and I have talked about this many times.  I could put her in public school and get a better paying job, we could have more ‘things’ but that isn’t what either of us want.  We don’t get to do big trips, Disney, the beach, but the memories, the simple trips, the laughter, the learning are priceless to me.  We chase butterflies, we dance in the rain, we have picnics in the yard, we read together, we meander, we explore, we giggle in the dark, we learn together.  There is no expensive car, no huge house, no designer clothes or shoes in the world more important than that.

I wrote the following the first year of our homeschooling journey:

I COULD…

I could send her to school,

And from 8:00-3:00 have no clue…

How many times she laughed,

How many times she learned,

How many times she questioned,

How many times she understood,

How many times she wanted more information,

How many times she bounced in her chair from excitement,

How many times she was proud of something she did.

I could send her to school and she could get her exercise and sunshine,

In 20 minute doses, if…she had on the right shoes, and no one misbehaved and everyone was quiet.

I could send her to school

And let her eat the processed high fat, low nutrition fare they feed millions of children a day,

if she had enough time to eat and didn’t talk too loud and if no one grabbed her food.

Or…..

I could homeschool her

.

When it is all said and done, I want Kei to look back on this and say, “I had the greatest, most delightful childhood. We had such fun.”

Homeschooling Rocks!

Karen Cagle | HomeschoolGirls.net

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Comments

  1. How great!!! This should be very inspiring to single parents out there! So often I run into people that comment that they wish they could homeschool, but dismiss it because they are a single parent. I have known a couple very successful single parent homeschoolers, and this simply demonstrates, that YES YOU CAN!!!

  2. What an amazing testimony!! I was one of 3 children to a single mom and she passed away when I was 13. I look back and can recall a handful of memories and how I wished I was able to spend more time with her. She worked 2 and 3 jobs just to pay the bills and I know she cared deeply for us {we lived in a trailer, drove an old car, and ate basic food….never a vacation}. But I can say….our childhood was fun, we used our imaginations and my mom taught us a strong work ethic. I think your daughter will grow up to say she had a wonderful childhood and wouldn’t trade it for the world! God bless!

  3. Oh my, what an awesome story! You are amazing and your daughter will thank you later. Keep up the great work!

  4. I am blessed to call Karen my IRL (in real life) friend and she was instrumental in encouraging me to begin homeschooling our children 2 years ago. I have tears in my eyes reading her post because she has written from the heart and her post echoes her lifestyle, faith and belief. She is an amazing Mom, is raising an incredible daughter Kei and has been a wonderful example to me many times over. She inspires me to be a better Mom, more imaginative homeschooling Mom and have more fun each day in our learning. I am blessed by her friendship, encouragement and example. If you haven’t ever read her blog, I encourage you to spend some time there…you will be inspired and refreshed!

  5. Karen, I’ve gotten to know you through the blog, etc… and I admire you all the more now that I’ve read your whole story. I just love what you wrote at the end of your post, too. I had to grab a Kleenex! So glad I saw this today!

  6. Oh, Karen, I started crying when I read about Kei’s Christmas list. Oh, how God always provides. I am so, so glad to have gotten to know you and Kei through our blogs and phone calls. You are a treasure, my friend. I hope we get to meet face to face one day!!

  7. Thank you for highlighting single moms who homeschool. I have been struggling with this decision while looking for a job recently. It is inspiring and very helpful. Thank you!!!

  8. I just wanted to say “Thank you” to everyone who commented, real life friends and blog friends. Your sweet words meant so much and inspire me so.

    Thank you Jamerrill for this awesome opportunity. <3

  9. Karen,

    Isn’t it just amazing how when we give it all up to God, our needs have a way of being met? That is so hard to do and yet you just gave us all an example of how to do it with Grace. You are an inspirational mother!

    ~Jess

  10. Karen, this post is so beautiful and inspirational! I am glad to read a bit more about your story, and I can see how truly amazing you are…as a woman and a mom :)

  11. Hello,
    I am a single mother of a four year old. I am curious as to what kind of jobs others do out of their home? I made the mistake of letting my daughter attend 10 mos to four years in Government childcare, against my gut instinct. We quit Nov.2011, I have been attending college for four years two more to go, I had planned on teaching Cosmetology as a Vocation. We are really struggling financially and I know I made the right decision. I do not have relatives or friends to be trusted to leaver her and I would not anyway. I just need to have a few ideas and I found this site, It was very comforting to know God is on the throne, feel free to contact or write words of encouragement, they are much needed.
    In christ. Lauren Leblanc

    • Hi Lauren!

      First, bless you and your family. I homeschool my four boys and work from home as a single parent. I truly would not have it any other way.

      To answer your question, I have been working from home since 2007. However, I did have to relocate to another state in order to make my dollars stretch further. I just could not put these precious boys in a public school!

      Right now, I do social media management for several clients (can you believe I get paid to be on Facebook all day?) There are lots of websites with work from home jobs (a good one is Rat Race Rebellion).

      I also had to do some cutting budget-wise – things like cable – and I truly had to pray as to what was important for us. The number of cable channels was not important but being together and raising Godly men ranks right up there!

      Some days are hard but I tell you this — God has always made a way in this house. These children have never gone hungry and never been with lights or Internet.

      If it is truly in your heart to homeschool, a way will be found. Believe me!

      Feel free to contact me via email: virtualwizardsonline@gmail.com.

      Blessings to you and yours,
      Regina

  12. Thank you! In desperation I stumbled on your site today. I have struggled with staying in an abusive relationship thinking I couldn’t continue to homeschool if I did not. It has been hell but now I see others doing it and it gives me hope. Hope that I can continue homeschooling but do not have to continue living in this current relationship.

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